Date me doc template: 12 questions that actually matter

Updated September 7, 2026 · 8 min read

Most dating profiles fail the same way: they answer easy questions well and hard questions never. Favorite food, yes; whether you want kids and when, silence. This template inverts that. It's the exact 12-question interview we use to build date me docs on DateMeAgent — refined by which questions visitors most often ask to have filled in when they're deciding whether to meet someone.

Answer each question in 3–6 honest, conversational sentences. Plain words beat polish — you're writing for one right person, not an audience. (New to the format? Start with what a date me doc is.)

The template

1. Introduce yourself in a few sentences

Age, city, what you do, what a normal week looks like. Skip the adjectives — "thoughtful, adventurous, kind" describes everyone. One concrete Tuesday describes only you.

2. Who are you seriously looking for?

Qualities, not measurements. "Someone who argues fairly and laughs easily" filters better than a height requirement — and reads better too.

3. How do you see love and relationships?

Why are you looking for something serious, and what does a good long-term relationship look like from the inside? This is the section readers quote back.

4. What does your everyday life look like?

Weekday evenings, weekends, energy levels, social battery. Compatibility mostly happens on ordinary days; describe yours.

5. How do you think about money and spending?

Saver or spender, what you splurge on, how you'd want a couple to handle finances. Money silence now becomes money fights later.

6. Your thoughts on family and kids?

The question everyone reading wants answered and no one wants to ask on a first date. Answer it plainly, timeline included if you have one.

7. How do you see roles between partners?

Career and home, chores, whose job moves the household — assumptions here differ wildly, and mismatches surface late and painfully.

8. What are you like when you're angry or in a bad mood?

Do you need space or conversation? Go quiet or get loud? How do disagreements end? The honest version of this section builds more trust than any strength you list.

9. What are your biggest strengths and flaws?

Real flaws — "I go quiet for a day when hurt," not "I care too much." A doc with no flaws reads as fiction and gets treated as such.

10. What are your clear dealbreakers?

The section people most want to soften and readers most need sharp. Every dealbreaker you hide costs an in-person discovery later.

11. If it clicks, how can someone meet you?

A contact method, and what a low-pressure first meeting looks like for you. Docs without an obvious next step lose people at the exact moment they were convinced.

12. Anything else you want people to know?

The thing that didn't fit a category — faith, an unusual life plan, the non-negotiable dog. If you'd want them to know it by date three, it belongs here.

The problem the template can't fix

However well you answer these 12 questions, a reader will have a 13th. Their follow-ups are where compatibility actually gets decided — and a static doc has nothing to say. That's the gap we built for: do this exact interview once (typing or voice), and it becomes a doc in your own words whose every section takes the follow-ups too — only ever saying what you approved, and saying "I don't know" when you never covered it.

The problem you can't see from inside

The other thing a template can't do is read your answers the way a stranger will. You know what you meant by "I'm easygoing about the small things"; a reader only has the sentence. So on DateMeAgent, once your doc exists, your dating portrait is drawn from all of it — every answer, not a summary — and writes you a private report: what a reader will remember, where they will pause, and which of the 12 questions you walked around. It names your strengths, including one you probably don't count, and what those strengths cost you. It does not rewrite your doc or score it; it shows you what you sent before you send it. Only you can read the report.

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